FOMO: A New Perspective

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For Christmas, I gave my sister an ornament. You know the ones…it has the year on it and then you add a cute family picture from that year. The picture I chose was a funny memory because we had to figure out using my ring tripod, and wrangle the kids off of their devices, then squish everyone into the frame and set the timer. We captured what we thought were great pics. Only to realize that my niece had been crossing her eyes in every single freaking picture. It was annoying and completely laugh-worthy.

So of course, I had to put that picture in the ornament. But what I realized as my sister opened the package at Christmas, was that my oldest niece wasn’t in the pic. And I felt so bad for selecting that picture. I apologized a couple of times and told my sister that she should feel free to replace the picture with one that includes my oldest niece. And my sister said to me, no, this is the picture that we will look back on and remember that niecey pooh wasn’t there because she was off at college.

I was so shocked at how simple and perfect that perspective was. What a new way of looking at this scenario. Maybe it’s just my family, but we do tend to acknowledge when all of the siblings are at an event, or all of the cousins, or all of the boys, or all of the grandkids. And when we photograph those events and someone is missing from the group, we do point out that all of the aunts/uncles/kids/etc. are there except so-and-so. And we do typically say that the picture would be so much better if the missing people were there. If that aunt was there or that grandchild was there to complete the group. We spend time focusing on who wasn’t there and how the picture would be better if they were in it.

But the thing I love about my sister’s response is that the absence of my niece is in itself a story. And this picture can remind us of how she was dedicated to school, even though it meant missing out on a family gathering that she would have liked to attend. We can commemorate the period of time that she was away at school through her absence from the picture.

There will always be times when people are missing from gatherings and events. Instead of creating a sense of guilt or sadness or FOMO around it, it’s so much better to focus on those who made it. It is more fruitful to acknowledge that people do have other things going on. We should choose to think of gatherings as a positive and joyous time to spend with the people in your presence, not a time to dwell on those who did not attend. That’s the perspective I’m going to try to have going forward.

Chime in–how do you handle FOMO?

Weekly Roundup: A few things from the interwebs

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Here’s my roundup of things of interest that I saw around the web this week. Of course I avoided all of the crappity crap news, because I’m sure we’ve all seen plenty of that. UGH. My roundup is as follows…

FOOD: Today we had a southwest chicken and veggie soup which we’ve made quite a few times. In general, whenever we make it, the soup has the same ingredients, but it depends on what we have on-hand. Our version is very similar to this recipe by The Blond Cook. We usually have shredded chicken, onions, diced tomatoes (seasoned with basil, garlic and oregano), spinach and/or kale, corn, black beans, some mixed veggies, chicken broth, and taco seasoning. Top with a little shredded cheese, cilantro, and/or tortilla strips. It’s a no-fail soup. Healthy, filling, and so good! This is a great soup to throw into the crockpot and let do its thing for a few hours.

WEDDING DECOR IDEA: I’ve been doing a lot of random craft projects that involve embroidery hoops so when I saw this idea on rockmywedding.co.uk, I just thought it was super cute and super simple. Such a whimsical way to include important moments and people without being super fussy.

PAPER: I’ve tried for years to slow down on needlessly buying paper but unfortunately, my love of stationery is a battle that I always lose. With an accumulation of notebooks, list pads, binders and planners, sometimes they just sit idle until I figure out how I want to use them. So I was happy to see this list by lavendaire.com of 11 ways to fill your notebooks. It also made me feel less alone, since clearly other people buy notebooks first, then figure out what to do with them second. The list includes some things like gratitude journal, success journal, and sketches. If you’re looking for ways to use your notebooks, this may help.

HEALTH: Spring is springing where I live. While it did just snow two days ago, there are still some signs that spring is afoot. With spring of course comes allergies. So I thought this article about 7 natural ways to combat spring allergies was actually quite informative. One of the common sense tips includes removing your clothes as soon as you walk in to prevent spreading pollen around your home…I mean, duh! Such a simple thing to do yet I don’t typically do this. It makes so much sense and would probably help keep the pollen spread in my home to a minimum.

JOURNALING: Journaling has become a really popular way to help clear your headspace, track habits, and document things going on in your life. I love this list of nighttime journaling topics that I spotted on pinterest. And of course, this is something else you can put in those notebooks you purchased.

Superpowers: Bloganuary Entry #13

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Writing prompt: What superpower would I love to have?

Let’s face it–superpowers are super cool.  The ability to have some sort of strength or intuition that can get you out of situations before they even happen, or that can keep you safe. Or even better, having some power that can keep the city, town, or planet safe…I mean how cool is that??

The ability to leap buildings, or process an enormous amount of information in microseconds, or fight evil gods and save the world from destruction, all sounds amazing.

If you’re a trekkie like me, the empath superpower of Deanna Troy would be really awesome.  She can read a room and pick up vibes without anyone saying a word.  But I don’t know…some say cancers already have that intuition.  So maybe that would be a redundant power for me to have.

So there are a few to choose from…flying, unfathomable strength, reading a room, data processing skills…there are a few options on the table.

I know this will sound cheesy, but I’d want something that helps the greater good. I’m not sure strength or intuition will fix any of the world’s problems.  I would say the biggest thing that this world needs is kindness, and if there was some way for me to spread kindness and understanding, that would be the superpower I’d much rather have.  This world lacks compassion and lacks caring. 

There are tons of people who love and care and go above and beyond for humanity every single day.  And they are absolutely amazing.

But there are a lot of people who don’t.  And they are the ones who make things difficult.  If I could approach people and sprinkle kindness on them, and give them ability to listen to others and feel love to their fellow man, that would be the superpower I’d love to have.

Now don’t get me wrong. I feel like disagreements and different perspectives are the spice of life.  Hatred, abuse, and lack of caring for others…that’s where the world needs some help in my opinion. And somehow I’d travel the world, showing up in a flash to sprinkle kindness wherever it’s needed.

It’s so cheesy, but seriously…why can’t people just be nice? Right??

Have you ever thought about this? What superpower would you like to have?

Favorite Emojis: Bloganuary Entry #10

Ok forreal, is any text communication complete these days without an emoji somewhere in there? Even my 80 year old grandmother includes emojis in her texts, and it amuses me so much.

Emojis can sometimes say what we don’t want to type, or they can emphasize a reaction to a message. It took me a while to start using them but now, they are a pretty important flare to my communication.

I definitely have my regulars that I go to in order to fully express the feelings behind whatever message I just texted.

So here are my top six go-to emojis:

💕 – Double hearts: I love it. Whatever you just said. I’m feeling it and I love it.

✨ – Sparkly stars: I support you. I want your feelings to be validated. So I’m sending you star sprinkles. A lot of times, it’s combined with the heart above.

🙄- Expressionless: I have no expression after what you just said or what I sent right before this emoji. And really, no expression is an expression. Amiright?

😂 – Crying with tears: I fell out laughing. Whatever you just said, or whatever I sent before this is absolutely hilarious. The more of these emoji, the funnier I found it.

🥰 – Kissy face: I have seen a picture and I want to kiss the face of whoever was in it. I absolutely adore it. Whatever it is.

🤷🏽‍♀️ – Shoulder shrug: You got me, fam. I have no idea how to respond or what you want me to say to what you just texted me. Or…my way of having no opinion which, if you know me, I probably do have an opinion but I’m not sharing it, and though you probably know what it is, I’m not saying it.

What’s your favorite emoji? Do we have any in common? Or are emojis wack? I love them lol.

Let me know!

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What people incorrectly assume about me: Bloganuary Entry #8

What do people incorrectly assume about me?

Let me start by saying that people probably assume a lot about me. And I guess that is what people do. It’s not that I’m particularly interesting or controversial. But people have their opinions no matter what. And because I’ve been known to be closed-off (that’s the cancer in me), I think that lends itself to people filling in the blanks with opinions and assumptions.

If I had to pick something that I think people assume about me, it’d be that they assume that I think I’m perfect. I do admit that I don’t really deal with a lot of foolishness, and I want people to be the best version of themselves. And maybe that standard makes people feel like I don’t realize that I myself am flawed.

But I do realize it. I actually realize my flaws quite a bit…definitely daily…and several times throughout the day. Like my girl Beyonce says, I’m a train wreck in the morning, I’m a bitch in the afternoon. It’s the story of my life.

I make mistakes. Often. I slack off. I make bad decisions. I can be mean. Snippy. Sarcastic. Horrible. Judgmental. Opinionated. That’s just the top of the list. I’m definitely far from perfect. And I realize this. So maybe I should do a better job of communicating that I do in fact realize that I’m quite flawed, and very, very, very far from perfect. Or maybe I should just let people assume whatever they’re going to assume.

What do people assume about you, and…are they right?

I’ll close this post out with my girl Bey. Flaws & All.